Do you ever question why some people like you and others just despise you? I used to think about this a lot. Back then, I didn’t know who I was. But now I do—and that’s why that question no longer lives in my head. Still, if you struggle with it, let me help you understand.
Why does it happen that one person can complement you from the bottom of their heart—saying something like, “Anyone who is feeling demotivated will immediately feel motivated after talking to you”? And no, it’s not flattery or people-pleasing. When you see it, you recognize it. It’s a raw, genuine compliment.
At the same time, there can be another person in the same room who says, “Oh, it’s like opening a gutter when she speaks”—behind your back, but loud enough for you to hear. It doesn’t feel good, right? But don’t get triggered by such things. If they were truly confident, wouldn’t they just communicate openly instead of using sneaky ways?
You are not the problem. It’s just how people perceive you. One sees you as a useful ally, another sees you as a threat or competition.
I’ve never liked overly competitive or political people—they’re such a vibe killer. Both groups fail to understand one simple thing: there is enough space for everyone to grow. Many leaders unknowingly fuel such behavior, not realizing the heavy price they’ll eventually pay for it.
Dealing with such people is exhausting. It slows down overall organizational growth. And God forbid you have a boss who sees you as competition. Who don't advocate for you in rooms you are not present in, who give you sanitisation projects or keep straight face when someone compliments you. Who gives credit to team when it's your win and put failure solely on you. I have had such Bosses in past if nothing worked, they went after my reputation or even my family.
My businessman friends say it’s easy to deal with slackers because they don’t question or challenge. But they complain about how difficult it is to handle high performers. Honestly, it’s not that hard. High performers need only few things and first thing they need is clarity where it's all heading. They also need freedom to make decisions and access to resources. But above all they need purpose. But not only that they also need time to rest, recharge, and maintain balance. As high performers often operate on high stress hormones.
The irony? Slackers frustrate high performers, while high performers threaten leaders—because they expose what’s broken. That’s always been a frustrating corporate reality.
Truth is high performers are not hard to manage—they are hard to control. There’s a difference. They are fast, intense, and independent. Leaders often see that as a threat, so they tighten their grip and start micromanaging. That’s usually when high achievers leave.
I’ve always been a high performer wherever I’ve worked. I wear that like a badge of honor, but I’m also aware of the challenges that come with it.
In the last few days, I received three offers—two from friends who run their own businesses. I rejected both. Let me tell you why.
Both of them said something like, “You’re single, you don’t have family responsibilities, so you can do whatever you want.” Classic corporate language. But I read it differently: “You’re single, so we can use all your time for the organization while paying you just enough to survive as you don't have family.”
It made me question—do you really care about me as a friend or as a human being? Because if you don’t, then you won’t care about me as an employee either.
It also makes me think—what if the divide between men and women is, in some way, engineered by larger systems to make individuals more useful to corporations than to society as a whole? Definitely food for thought… and maybe my next research topic.
This might sound strange, but the system is watching me closely—almost like a hawk. Even my phone is being monitored. I even know who might be involved. One of my exes, another a client, and there’s a third person I’d rather not name.
Yes, spying on someone’s phone is against the law, and I could file a complaint. But I’m not doing anything wrong, so I don’t feel the need to fear it. Let the system watch. I’m just a small, next-door-type blogger.
And boy oh boy how funny and awesome the laws are. They apply even to the people who make them. Isn't that amazing!
Watch the heat as IMD has issued a heatwave warning for Maharashtra over the next few days, stay hydrated avoid peak hot hours and take care!
Lastly, if you’re not the one spying on my phone, then ignore this message:
Hello dear, don’t just watch and try to figure out what’s going on in my world. Reach out already!
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